Apu’s World

Cross-posted on Women’s Web

Until the cut motion in Parliament and the possible fall of the Government upstaged it, it looked as though the saga of Lalit Modi would be ‘breaking news’ on every TV channels worth its salt. Well, one good thing that’s possibly emerged from the IPL hoopla is that cheerleaders may no longer be used at the games. I say ‘possibly’, because the decision isn’t yet clear.

Now, when the cheerleading thing first started 2 years ago, most of the objections that came in were from the perspective that they were ‘against Indian culture.’ By that logic, Rakhi Sawant and the legion of item girls who work in Hindi movies should have been banned a long time ago, but then logic is not the strong suit of Indian politicians.

No, my objection to cheerleading is nothing to do with Indian culture or even with the outfits the cheerleaders wear. It is simply an objection to the whole premise behind the practice of cheerleading, which is that men play, and women cheer. My friend Rashmi, who’s started up this group on Facebook, ‘Say No to Cheerleaders’ explains it very well - so I’m just going to quote her here. She is talking about an exchange she had with her daughter.

Me: “S, do you want to attend the Cricket coaching camp with your brother ?”

S: “Is that where they teach girls to dance when the boys play cricket ?”

And please, don’t point me to the few, token male cheerleaders - we all know what the focus is. (And really, are the male cheerleaders even around anymore?)  Don’t forget the ads in small print that give out a number where you can call and talk to a cheerleader. Is this anything at all to do with cricket or even cricket-as-entertainment? No, just peddling of women.

This is one Western import we don’t need. We have enough sexism of our own, thank you.

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Women’s Web, a new web mag and community for Indian women (the venture I discussed in my last post), is now live! Please do go visit, read and register (in order to participate).

It’s early days yet, so there may be a few glitches - please excuse us for this - the tech team is working hard to address them. Among the articles we’ve put up for launch, I like many (I’m biased of course!), but two of my favourites are this piece on Bollywood’s working women and an interview with Anouradha Bakshi, the founder of Project Why, an organization doing some very good work with the underprivileged.

As I said earlier, I’m excited but nervous too. I do hope those who’ve enjoyed reading this blog will find the site of interest as well.

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Phew, it really has been quite some days since I managed to spend time here. In my defence, I have been busy with a new project that’s been in the wings for some time now (really, in the wings for so long that at times, I’ve despaired of ever getting it off ground). Finally, it does look as if we’ll be able to launch soon, so I can now talk about it here.

So, what is this New Project?

The New Project is a new website/magazine/community for Indian women.

Wait a minute, don’t we have some of those already?

Sure, but I do think there is space for more quality original content  - and without raining on anyone else’s parade, I’d like to say that at times, I feel as if the content specifically targeted at women is overwhelmingly about beauty, weight loss or celebrity gossip. Surely we are interested in more than these?

One thing which has amazed me for, for instance, is that, given how more and more women are entering the paid workplace, why is there so little focus on that?

So, one of the objectives of this new website is that a good part of the content is geared to working women. Now, by working women, I don’t necessarily mean someone who has a 9 to 6 job in a shiny office. Working women could be full-time workers, part-time workers, work-from-home moms, the self-employed, retired workers or - it could even be someone who is right now on a break, but would like to keep in touch, or, someone who’s never worked outside the home but wants to start. And who is to say homemakers don’t want to discuss many of these things too? (Not to mention that most women’s magazines in India also have a significant percentage of male readers).

The idea is to have interesting and intelligent content for women - feature articles on current topics, profiles of women who’ve done interesting things, a Q&A session with industry experts plus I’ve got some really cool bloggers who’ll be writing on the site. Other sections such as a forum and newsletter should follow soon, though the plan is to start small and grow with our readers.

It’s not a solely feminist website, in the sense that the content is not structured around activism and what we usually call ‘women’s issues’, but on the other hand, while it is going to be a commercial website, I do visualize it as a women-friendly space with two important values : to be supportive of women and their choices, and to talk to women as intelligent users.

Getting the site development through has been a huge challenge, considering that I don’t have a technology background myself; while things can always improve, it looks like we’ll be ready to go with Version 1.0 in a day or two, and I’ll announce the url here then.

I’m looking forward to support and encouragement from you folks, my dear blog readers - and of course, feel free to offer suggestions once you’ve had a look at the site. I hope to continue blogging here (and regularly), although I may use some posts at both locations.

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Hectic, hectic sort of week! (Expect a BIG announcement here sometime in the next week or two, on a new venture that’s been in the offing for some time).

So, posting will be a little slow this week, but here’s a link to an interesting article, on women taking up the cause of better sanitation in Haryana by demanding toilets for their girls. I wonder if the demand for brides is in any way tied to the shocking gender ratio in that state?

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I have been watching all the furore over the Women’s Reservation Bill, but not really said anything about it, perhaps because my thinking on the issue is a little muddled. I do believe that in the current political climate, women need additional support to enter and succeed in politics, but I am not sure if reservation is the best way to do it. Perhaps it is one of many things that needs to be done, including within-party reforms.

But, something else that I have been thinking about relates closely to this issue of so-called ’special treatment’ for women. This is the issue of maternity leave. Thankfully, maternity leave is not legally an issue in India, although it is still too short. That doesn’t mean it is not an issue in practice. Firms in the organized sector will not normally deny a woman maternity leave, though they may very well avoid hiring women of a certain age (the 24-32 age group seen as at ‘high risk’ of pregnancy).

Two questions which I have often heard are, if you claim to be equal, why are you asking for special treatment in the form of maternity leave?  Why should the company fund your personal choice to have children? These are two different issues, so let me break down my thoughts accordingly. In fact, to avoid too long a post, I will address only the first issue in this one.

Why “special” leave if you claim to be equal, is a question often thrown at women. This question assumes one important thing : that the norm is ‘no-maternity leave’ and therefore asking for maternity leave is a ‘deviation’, a call for ’special treatment.’ But, here’s the thing; assuming a norm of ‘no-maternity leave needed’ is a fundamentally biased one. It is a norm based on a situation where the workplace is entirely comprised of biological males who do not need maternity leave.

But, here’s the thing too : 50% of this planet’s citizens are women. What if we and our bodies were the norm? Looking at it this way, suddenly, maternity leave doesn’t seem like an aberration. Women’s bodies carry children, and those bodies need a period of rest before/after delivery, plus time off until the baby is weaned. That’s a biological fact. Workplaces have never been built taking into account the fact of women’s bodies or their lives. For e.g. transfer policies in most government departments in our country were laid down for a prototype male worker, whose non-working wife and children would simply move when he had to.

If 50% of the world’s occupants - women, were assumed as the norm, the situation would be very different. For those of you who still cannot quite picture how often men are simply assumed as the norm, flip the situation around. Let’s assume a new men’s bathroom is being fitted out, and a purchase request is placed for urinals. The Head of Purchase, who has to approve all requests, turns it down saying, “What! Why do you need standing-up urinals? Can’t you just sit down and pee, like we do? What is it with you men and your special requests?”

Today, this is what happens to women. Fundamental facts about our bodies and our lives, are treated as aberrations, simply because we are not treated as the norm. Equality doesn’t just mean treating us the same way as men. Equality also means that our needs are taken equally into consideration when the rules by which things work are drawn up.

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