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April 27th, 2011

While I work on a book review to be put up here soon, do have a look at these two recent posts, both up on the Women’s Web blog.

Strangely, both were inspired by events on Twitter, where I am spending some time to maintain the Women’s Web profile. The first was on an incident of under-age driving - when popular blogger Kiruba tweeted about letting his under-10 year olds drive. The second is really close to my heart; it’s about the abuse thrown at women who dare to be visible in public - do have a look, and if you are on twitter, FB or social media, please show your support in any way you can.

In other news, Women’s Web has completed a year. :) Strangely enough, there was no specific launch date, although the first bunch of articles went up early April 2010. Work has been so busy that I never even realised that a year was up until the end of April! It’s been a challenging year - a year of finding out how little I know about running an online publication - but it’s been extremely exciting too, and I wouldn’t have given up the experience for anything!

apu Other Social issues in India, Women & Feminism

HUSH

April 18th, 2011

This post has been written for the Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Campaign - please check it out; this review includes some spoilers though I’ve tried my best not divulge plot details.

When I received the copy of HUSH that I had ordered online, at first, it seemed like there was more packaging material than book. HUSH is a slim book indeed, but weighty nonetheless. A graphic novel that takes on a troubling and uncomfortable subject that most people would prefer not to think about - child sexual abuse.

With absolutely no text, and very few images, this graphic novel by Pratheek Thomas and Rajiv Eipe tells the story of a girl in a seemingly normal urban family, which really isn’t normal at all. While I am not going to divulge the details of the story, suffice to say that the book makes a strong impression. A couple of things stood out for me.

One was the helplessness of children - not just in the context of abuse but in general. For adults who have the care of children, I can understand how frustrating their behaviour can sometimes be - the yelling, the tantrums, the way they sometimes can embarrass parents - and yet, how frustrating must it be for a child to constantly be told not to do something or not follow all their natural instincts. (This post - “Respect” is worth reading in that context). In one of the panels in HUSH, a little girl cowers in the Principal’s room, and while I don’t think it was meant to indicate sexual abuse, the question of power and the use of fear to control children loomed large. If we teach children to fear adults and that good behaviour always means saying Yes, how can we teach them at the same time to say No?

A while after reading the book, another thing that really stays in the mind is the vivid expressiveness of all the characters’ faces in the book - and especially, of the anger that an abused child feels. HUSH does its close-ups superbly; in fact, in many places, it feels uncomfortable, as though one is personally part of a system that has failed this child - such is the anger in her eyes that glare at you.

Which can only be a good thing - it’s time more of us took responsibility for looking out for children we come in contact with, and not necessarily only one’s own kids.

apu Other Social issues in India, The Literary life

Is women’s’ worldview narrow?

March 31st, 2011

An excellent gender-wise analysis of the Indian blogosphere by Preeti - do have a look. She uses it to explore the larger question of whether women’s interests are too narrowly focused - on home, parenting, relationships - and if that is a problem.

What do you think? By ceding the ‘big issues’ such as politics, science, law or technology to men, are we doing ourselves a disservice? I am in two minds - on the one hand, one cannot say that the personal is unimportant, and men can definitely do better at articulation in that space; however, one cannot say either that politics or technology is unimportant - these things drive change and will shape the way the world looks 10 years from now. Are we not interested or just not interested enough to focus on them single-mindedly, or are there female bloggers and writers in this area that have been missed? (I am talking Indian specifically).

Go read and do share your comments. It is a post that a lot of thought has gone into, and I think, a topic much worth discussing.

apu Women & Feminism

How much should a person consume?

March 22nd, 2011

Since moving to Chennai, we have had an abundance of bird-sighting. The area that we are living in is on the fringes of the city; there are still open lands here and coconut and banana groves. There is a lake fairly close by, plus marshlands, which support over a 100 species of birds. Standing on the terrace of our house or on our little street, I have in the last 15 days already sighted chestnut-headed bee-eaters, white-breasted kingfishers, a rufous treepie, purple sunbirds, ashy prinias, the Indian pond heron and a few other species that I haven’t identified yet - besides mynas, doves, bulbuls and of course, crows!

A large plot of land next to our house is lying vacant and this is is a haven for many of the smaller species. It has already been identified for building by a flat developer. I can’t help feeling sad about this, and indeed, many of us love to wax eloquent about the forests being destroyed for development, ecosystems being wiped out and so on - but what we do not realise is that the ecosystem does not exist in a remote forest comfortably away from us. Our backyards and cities are also part of an ecosystem and we are all complicit in driving away every other species from it except - homo sapiens.

We are the ones who buy the flats - for which the land is cleared.

We are the ones who use mobile phones - and their towers that drive birds away.

We are the ones that want a ‘lakeside’ property - where access is denied to fishermen who have used the lake for generations because we don’t want ‘outsiders’, especially poorly dressed ones, in ‘our’ neighbourhood.

And we are the ones breeding in numbers our country cannot sustain. Yes, you and me, netizens may protest that we don’t have more than 2 kids each, but even then, ours will be the kids that eat more processed food, use and throw electronic items every year, want larger houses with more privacy for everyone and 24 hour ACs to shut out the heat - in short, consume energy and resources like an American does today.

Those metals and minerals have to come from somewhere, don’t they? And while we protest the jungles being cleared for the bauxite mining and the coal plant, we can’t live without the things they make! We protest the process, but clamour for its results. Most politicians know this, which is why no one (ok, make that few, out of some respect for Jairam Ramesh) takes environmental objections seriously.

I don’t know really what the solution is. Live more simply, yes - but easier said than done? Honestly, it is difficult to weigh the consequences of each and every small decision. Should I gift this friend’s child yet another cheap plastic china-made toy made probably with toxic materials? Or an ‘authentic’ wooden toy that still needed some part of a tree? Or is there something more sustainable? Do I need one more outfit? If I were to be absolutely honest, I ‘need’ very little of what I have. Yet, it is all very exhausting and rarely do I continue this chain of thought to any logical end.

I did buy recently Ramachandra Guha’s ‘How much should a person consume‘, and I’m hoping that it will set me thinking a little more deeply on the subject and perhaps act on it, even if in my own small way.

What do you think? How much should a person really consume?

apu Other Social issues in India

Celebrating FemInspiration!

March 4th, 2011

For generations, women’s achievements were rarely visible. Because women did their stuff within their homes and communities, their lives and courage stayed unsung. Mothers, cooks, home economists, farmers, grandmothers, oral historians, wipers-of-tears, queens-behind-thrones and singers-of-lullabies - yes, women were all these. Many took on the mantle of ‘head of the family’ in adverse circumstances. Today, women’s deeds are more visible, but we can still do with a lot more support.

This year, the 100th year of celebrating Women’s Day, we can all celebrate women by bringing to light the stories of women that we know.

That’s what the FemInspiration contest is all about. If you haven’t seen it already, check it out!

How can I support FemInspiration?

1. By participating and adding your voice to the cause of celebrating women (on your blog or on FB - please go to the contest URL for details)
2. By spreading the word to others who may like to participate

Looking forward to hear all your stories soon!

apu In General, Women & Feminism